Everyone on this and every other website is hoping to find that special someone.  And as a single person I find that there is some mistakes I would like to share and hope you don’t fall into any of these categories.  

     1. Don’t pose for pictures.When checking out the photos on a dating profile, I always remind myself that I’m seeing the subject at her/him absolute best. And that’s OK — it only makes sense to put up your most flattering photos. But I hate it when women do that pouty, or bored look whenever someone pulls out a camera. A funny candid shot goes a lot further with me.  Or not posting a posting a picture at all.  It always amaze me how many people will register on a website and not show a picture of themselves.

     2. Don’t complain about the last guy/girl.Too many women (and men) use their profile to complain about former dates. For instance, there was a cute blond guy who almost got a message from me until I read the following: “No vegans, uber- hipsters or pervs. No exceptions.” Uh, OK. I’m none of the above, but he sounds a little bitter, no?  They want to know that you have moved on, and if you can’t move on from your former love how will you be in our relationship.  You are telling people that you are not ready to date.

     3. Don’t overshare.While I instantly skip profiles that only feature one photo and a few uninformative scraps of personal information, there’s something to be said for a little mystery.   It is always best to put your best foot forward.  Sharing things like how you hate your job, your problable with the opposes gender, your problem with your parents divorce or some other heart ache you had as a child, and jokes about yourself.  These things don’t draw a person toward you, but push them away.  Don’t reveal your negatives, and don’t look for support from someone that has shown interest in you.  Don’t get me wrong there will come a time that you should share those different things, but down the road when they have grown to like you. 

     4. Don’t make your pet a focal point.I get it — you care very much for Mr. Snugglebuttons, and it’s important for your guy to also be an animal lover. Fair enough. But take it too far and I begin to wonder if you’re looking for a boyfriend or someone to clean the litter box.  And don’t focus on any other one thing.  They are trying to get to know you but not one specific thing in your life. 

    

     Love is a slow process where you grow to love that other person as you take that journey of dating.  Take these sure steps and you will make a good first impression.