Is God in Control? (Breaking Up) By Pastor Lawrence

    It is a rare person that has never experienced this.  At first there seems so much promise, and they are so wonderful.  And people tell you that you look great together.  But after a while for some reason they don’t want to date you anymore.  Many have cried and asked God “why?”   Today I want to give you some thoughts about how to handle a break up.

      The first thing I want you to always remember is that God is in control.  Nothing happens without God allowing it.  Always remember that God loves you.  The Bible says in Revelation 3:7 says, “he (Jesus) that openeth, and no man shutteth; and shutteth, and no man openeth.”  God is always in control and he could of closed the door on this relationship.  He could have saved the relationship, but he might have something better for you.  As the old saying goes, “God leaves the best to those that leave the choice up to him.”  Be willing to let go any relationship, understanding that it is God that gives someone and he is totally capable of bring him/her back.  If it is his will.  Trust God.  And holding on to someone to tight is one of the major reason why someone breaks up with another.  Besides showing a girl/guy that you’re desperate for her, there is things you can say after the break up that will kill all chance of having them come back.  Here are some.

-Repeatedly telling him/her that you love them.

-Calling them non-stop to check up on them

-Asking (or begging) him/her to give you another chance.

-Telling him/her that they are “the one”, and that you can’t live without her.

-Letting him/her know that you love her and will always be there for them. 

     Sadly the consequences is that it pushes them father away, and it reassures them that they made the right decision to end this relationship.  They fell in love with a confident and and independent person.  They want to be with the person they met, not the person that you’ve become.  Nothing a person hates more than to be needed.  Being dependant on another is the surest way to kill a relationship.   And that person who needs the other the least will always be in control of the relationship. 

     Many dating books will promise ways to get them back, and even play mind games on them.   But in  Isaiah 55:8 says, “my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways”, and the way to save a relationship is to let them go and trusting God.   If it is his will he will bring them back and if not he will bring something better.  Just a thought!