The Guys Gazing Eye By Brother Paul Nutt

There is a deception going on today with men who think it is okay to gaze upon women. Oh, they may say to themselves its okay to look just as long as I don’t lust. But you will see that the Devil uses that thought to trap many men into a huge sinful problem that can lead to a huge addiction. I, myself once believed this lie from the Devil, and it has taken me down a road that now I wish I had not gone down. Going down this road opens a door in our lives that once opened it is very hard to close. Our eyes are the gateway to our heart. And if we as Christian men are going to live holy and pure lives we must learn to control our eyes.

Many times we look at things being controlled by our heart. But the Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” Let me ask you a question, if something was unstable and dangerous and unable to be known, would you trust it? Would we seriously be so naïve to be led by such a dangerous thing? So naïve to let it lead our lives to the point that it could destroy relationships, our relationships with family members and possible destroy our lives.

The heart is controlled, to a point, thru the eyes. If our heart is to be controlled we must control our eyes. I believe that a thing as simple as a gaze can hurt us Christian men. The word gaze is defined as to fix the eyes in a steady intent look often with eagerness or studious attention. Even if what we would call a harmless gaze can be dangerous. When we see a beautiful woman, even if one is dressed appropriately, when we let our eyes control us by gazing upon her beauty, there is a fine line between admiring and lusting. Many men do not know where that line is and what may seem to be a simple gaze can turn into lustful thoughts.

Oh my, the things we are gazing at will cause our minds to think bad thoughts. And bad thoughts lead to eventually doing something bad. So many men mess their lives up because they fail to realize something as simple as this. They think that it is just a harmless stare and they are deceived by the Devil. There is no such thing as a ‘harmless stare’. If we are to be pure and holy for God we cannot gaze at women. We must control our eyes.

As it says in 1Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Your eyes and your mind is not yours to use as you want. They are to be used for the glory of God. Also in 2Co 6:16 it says: for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. We must tell ourselves these are God’s eyes and God’s mind and I will look and think on what is pleasing unto the Lord. Philippians 4:8 says: Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. These are what you are to be looking and thinking on, THESE THINGS.

I know, you may be saying but I’m strong enough to handle it. I can look and it won’t affect me. I say you are being deceived by the Devil. As it say in Proverbs 7:25 & 26: Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. You still think you are strong enough to handle it to the point it won’t affect you? I say again, you are being deceived by the Devil. He wants to destroy you and make you ineffective for Jesus Christ. I don’t care whether a woman is dressed right or not don’t gaze at women. You are not strong enough to handle what the Devil is setting you up for.

Now, for those of you who have already opened that door in your life of sexual addiction, where your problem is not just gazing and lusting, but you are into hardcore stuff, let me give you some advice to help you close this door. It will be hard to close, but it can be done. Remember Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. First off, if you are saved, a born-again Christian on your way to Heaven, remember Jesus loves you and is ready to forgive you for whatever you have done. Ask for forgiveness from Jesus and tell him how sorry you are and that you want his help in changing your life.

Second, put away from you all those things that are tempting you to lust. Don’t go to places that cause you to be immoral in your thoughts, for example maybe the mall. Stay away from friends that trip you up. Don’t listen to dirty talk or jokes. Thirdly, anywhere you go now a day you see women dressed very scantly. Practice making your eyes like bouncing balls, where if you see something inappropriate such as a woman or billboard or whatever you immediately look away. I mean as fast as you can. And then don’t look back. Remember, if you saw something the first time, it wasn’t your fault, you haven’t sinned. You sin if you look a second time or if you don’t look away at all and just gaze.

And lastly, memorize scripture. Saturate your mind with Bible scripture that will help you stand against your temptations. The Bible says in Psalms 119:9 states: Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. Be a sponge and soak up as much scripture as you can. Spend much time with God thru Bible reading and prayer. Pray much for help. Remember, any temptation that you face you can win against. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

If I can be of any more help, please contact me at 734-330-9069. May God bless you on your journey.